tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3202881605114576417.post2553345656315648553..comments2023-09-24T23:56:49.214+08:00Comments on The McVie Show, Season Thirteen: What Is Special?joelmcviehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18271791181683397711noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3202881605114576417.post-89318477350945917822007-01-17T05:36:00.000+08:002007-01-17T05:36:00.000+08:00Very insightful comment, as always.
However, I ha...Very insightful comment, as always.<br /><br />However, I have discovered that the dynamics of a romantic relationship is quite different from that of the relationships we have with family or friends. <br /><br />For me it is not a question of hierarchy. That seems too general a statement. How can you compare your love for your parents as against your love for a husband, wife, or lover? <br /><br />You are right. It IS a question of choice, and an understanding of what one wants to experience in life. I have experienced the very special love of family and friends. In a certain context, this is certainly more than enough. I am happy and grateful for continuing to experience this kind of love from the people around me. <br /><br />However, as you already know, having someone special - be it friends, family, or a lover - is not a requirement to live life on Earth. But getting in a relationship with "someone special" for me means that a person is now choosing to live life differently, and experience life differently too. <br /><br />I guess the pursuit of everyone is to live a happy and successful life. But a lot of people forget that life is an experience too, and therefore an opportunity to feel more and be more. <br /><br />Given how different a "romantic" relationship is from our other relationships, an opportunity to experience more is manifested.<br /><br />That's the reason why some people (even me for a time) convince themselves that being alone is ok. Of course it is. But sometimes, though, they turn a blind eye to the fact that they are just afraid to be in a relationship. It is easier to say that family and friends are enough. Of course they are enough. But the heart doesn't lie. If there is a longing for someone special, then there is a longing for someone special. Period. And this longing cannot be easily justified by saying that family and friends are enough.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3202881605114576417.post-5801523839407481022007-01-17T00:47:00.000+08:002007-01-17T00:47:00.000+08:00What is the conclusion then? Assigning hierarchies...<i>What is the conclusion then? Assigning hierarchies is detrimental to relationships.</i><br /><br />Not true. The basis of a marriage vow is this: your partner is more important to you than everyone else. It's as simple as that. Family and friends can be enough, but one must be open to the possibility that there is <i>more</i>.<br /><br />Now, why is that a good thing? Why is having someone who you treat as more important than everyone else and who treats you the same way a good thing? Because, at the end of the day, when all of your friends, even your family, leaves you, he/she will still be there, not because of the fact that you were born with similar genes, or that you like going out together and having fun, but because you both made a contract. A vow. You both said in a ceremony created for just that fact that you will love each other, and only each other, for the rest of your lives. You can live life alone, true, but living it with someone who would walk with you because he/she <i>vowed</i> to do so is better.<br /><br />I'm not saying it's necessary to find a lifelong partner to live a full life. And yes, just because you <i>thought</i> you found the <i>One</i> doesn't mean you actually had found the One. But I am saying though that to find that one person who for you is the most important person in your life is actually a good thing.<br /><br />polite meagalomaniac<br />www.livejournal.com/~shafts_of_sunAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3202881605114576417.post-39186723362440197512007-01-16T21:19:00.000+08:002007-01-16T21:19:00.000+08:00If by experiencing life to the fullest means exper...If by experiencing life to the fullest means experiencing <i>everything</i> it has to offer, then pity and envy those who have never experienced true love - for the best and <i>worst</i> that life has to offer is yet to come.<br /><br />;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com