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Sunday, August 25, 2013

My Husband’s Fabcast, Part 2

And now here’s the second and last part of the discussion regarding “My Husband’s Lover” and its ramifications, including the following:

Martir versus torpe
Lahat ba ng bottom, martyr?!
Being bottom
“My Husband’s Lubrication”
The hierarchy of being a kabit

And with the arrival of LobsterTony, the recording was abruptly cut short. Thus, this is one of the rare Fabcasts wherein you don’t hear Migs and the Fabcasters say our usual goodbye.

So on behalf of the Fabcasters, let me say here: “World peace!”

Listen and enjoy.

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1 comment:

yvarra17 said...

I chose to make comments on Part 1 since the sharing was much more sincere, intelligent and challenging, i.e. more sober and insightful.

First off, the series is available on YouTube uploaded by BiroGo. Without getting caught by my boss in the office, I am up to episode 25th which, in my opinion, is the best episode so far. It was in the hospital that the acting was superb as the theme was being untangled and peeled off to reveal the truth of Vincent's gay-ness. It was filled with pain and anguish on Vincent's part. Lally was simply shocked and devastated. Eric was once again dissed on the side and yet unrelenting in his pursuit of Vincent's heart.

It is my opinion that this episode capsulized the intent of the series, i.e. an understanding of the inner conflict, due to stereotypes and lack of compassion and empathy, to reveal the inner reality of the characters involved.

It is our understanding that our humanity is flawed. A denial of our flawed nature is the source of conflict, suffering, pain and struggle. It is in recognizing, accepting and celebrating our identity as such that we can grow as to 'who' we really are, or can we be free to be who we are. Paradoxically, refraining from wearing masks, we arise from these "growing pains" to a more matured view of self and others. Relationships become sincere, authentic and without guile. We don't play games nor act according to our needs or instincts. Thus love is truthful, mature and universal, whether a relationship is hetero or homo sexual.

Eric's insatiable thirst for Vincent based on a high school infatuation seems unreal to me. It is normal for teens to be attracted to the same sex. To expect Vincent to be faithful to him within four years of college and abroad is a stretch. It was not even clear whether their love was 'consumated' that Eric would treasure a hope that the promise made between them would be honored. Hence, being a 'martyr' was best fit to his character to the extent of being 'torpe' as discussed in your Fabcast 2.

I would consider Vincent as bi-sexually gay. His character is the hinge of all the conflict, anguish, pain and suffering of all people that revolve around him. One cannot love anybody significant halfheartedly. That in itself is an inner conflict that cannot be hidden. If Eric is 'torpe,' then Vincent is 'tanga.'

Lally's need for love arose from her extreme attachment for external protection and shelter as portrayed in her family dynamics. Her idyllic role as wife and mother made her so vulnerable and fragile. Ironically, her basic good-self contributed to her being slow in believing her sixth sense. Hence, if Eric is 'torpe' and Vincent is 'tanga,' then Lally is 'gaga.'

Torpe, tanga and gaga are the sentiments that make the series tick to which the common lovers can identify. Enhanced by Kuh's enthralling song, we love to shed tears and long for the next episode. As we wipe our eyes, we are just too anxious to know more.

If I may conclude my two cents in the realm of the gay culture in the Philippines, is it fair to say that gay relationships with a seeming macho man are still more attractive being that we are sentimental people? Do we thrive in love-hate relationships that we often write in blogsphere? I hope then that "My Husband's Lover" is just a beginning for gay relationships that are beyond the level of the soaps. Don't misinterpret me. I love the show. I have such a hope in a gay relationship that are life giving and enriching.

My warm regards to Gibbs.