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Sunday, October 12, 2008

The Straight And Confused

An online friend, let’s call him Crab Megan, asked me over IM: “What situation is easier to get out of—falling for a straight guy, or falling for a guy who’s confused?”

I didn’t take long to IM him back. As far as I’m concerned getting over a straight guy is a whole lot simpler, faster and easier. First of all, I’ve done that so many times that, for me, to use the immortal words of Mayor Ate Vi, I’ve “been there, been that.” Besides, you know clearly where he stands; he’s straight, and he’s not going to go for dick. That certainty certainly helps in getting over him. Why knock your head against a brick wall?

But with a confused guy, there’s always the “what ifs” and “could have beens” to deal with. What if he really is gay, but just can’t admit it to himself? Could you wait long enough for him to come to terms with himself? What if he ends up acknowledging he’s gay, but falls for another guy? The uncertainty makes it very difficult to figure out where you stand.

Of course, there will be people who would like the challenge. And there will be people who would say, fuck it, I’m going to take a chance even though it’s one-in-a-million. I say, best of luck to them. Maybe they are strong of heart and full of hope.

Life is complicated as it is. It depends on you whether you want to keep things simple or embrace and accept the complexity. Or do either one, depending on the situation and the person. Hey, didn’t I say life is complicated?


E said...

wow that's so twisted! falling for a str8 dude...I've never fell for any guy who is str8 and no plans to fall for one either...I see my straight friends as my "kuya's" they could jack in front of me and still, nothing...

Wow...whats it like to fall for a str8 dude? That must be like shit raised to the nth power huh?

thebaklareview said...

i'm confused.

joelmcvie said...

@THEBAKLAREVIEW: No, you're confusing. Hahaha.

Mugen said...

Kaya ako, when I know the guy is straight, I'd always pull a straight act. If he gets too close, I'd draw the line by telling him I'm not straight so he would always know where to draw the line.

If he crosses it, sori siya, papalag ako.

Anonymous said...

I don't understand the question....what is this word "straight" that you keep throwing around?