Watch Me Entertain Myself!

Sacha Guitry once said, "You can pretend to be serious, but you can't pretend to be witty." Oh yes, I'm the great pretender.
(pilot episode: 20 January 2004)

Monday, January 14, 2008

Bed Redux

I went to Bed last Saturday after several months of staying away (yes, I can do that if I want to). It was strangely familiar; or maybe I should say strange and familiar. There were new faces but some old ones as well. Yet despite the change in cast, the play remains the same—same script, same plot, same endings. The actors changed but the characters remain the same.

And although I didn’t do a marathon, it was great to lose myself in dance after a long time.

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Somehow in the midst of all those lights flashing and the beat pumping, and with my eyes firmly aimed at the sexy torso of a go-go boy dancing provocatively at an elevated platform in front of me, a train of thought chugged through my mind, drowning out some diva’s caterwauling over thumping house beats:

Will I end up as one of those oldies that enter such bars and the young ones go, “Oh no, here’s another one from the Jurassic era. I wonder who this predator will pounce on tonight?” Hmmm. Maybe I ought to shoot myself before I get too old for those places, hahaha. But then why should old gay guys think that they’re “too old for those places”? The stereotype of “old gay guys preying on young gay guys” has a straight version: the Dirty Old Man. So it’s not really a gay phenomenon but a male phenomenon.

Damn. I ought to relearn to just dance and enjoy.


Quentin X said...

Age: it's all relative.

Chris said...

Hi, I can't find any contacts on your blog. Can I ask you to send a note for me? My email is in profile.
Thanks, Chris

palma tayona said...


I deeply appreciate your coming over and see my works. i really, really, really appreciate it. :-)

thank you soooo much.


closet case said...

and lately, some notable senior females, too. have you seen the "the roman spring of mrs stone"? ay, ganda! i can understand the attraction of PYT's. but sometimes, too, you dont know where to look for more senior members of the society!

joelmcvie said...

@PALMA TAYONA: It was a pleasure to finally see your paintings up-close instead of just on a monitor. The colors are a lot more alive, and I love seeing texture.

And on behalf of the Fabcasters, I'd like to thank you for sharing the story of the father with a 13-yr old gay son. We really, really, really appreciated it. =)

@CC: I wonder: IS THERE A BUSINESS OPPORTUNITY TO PUT UP A "DANCE CLUB" TARGETING AN OLDER MARKET? (Wag naman ballroom dancing sana, hahaha!)

cant_u_read said...

although i miss terribly the gay scene in manila, the one thing i love about hk gay scene is the absence (ok, maybe not absence, but there's very very little compared to manila) of prejudices based on role, fetish, age and color.

kami lang nila dan ang may prejudice. hehehe!

lika na dito! dito na lang tayo mag-party!

joelmcvie said...

@CANT_YOU_READ: Haaaay naku, hanapan nga ninyo ako ng trabaho diyan sa HK. Para party at podcast na lang tayo gabi-gabi, hahaha!

jericho said...

there will always be someone younger, sexier and prettier. peste! pare-pareho lang tayong baklang naghahanap ng lalake. (bitter ba? hehe)

Thomas said...

That's stuck up Manila! Pretending to be sophisticated and all.

joelmcvie said...

@THOMAS: Don't fall into the trap of generalizing. Manila's gay crowd is not a homogeneous group. Not all are stuck up with youth. It's just that unfortunately the more sophisticated ones aren't that vocal. YET. I'm sure shifts in attitudes are happening every day.