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Friday, June 25, 2010

Are Straight Guys in Gay Porn Really Straight?

I first stumbled upon this article written by Mike Alvear in the website Porn Newz, which really just borrowed it from The Huffington Post website. I particularly like how the article explains the “gay-for-pay” and “straight-for-stay” concepts. They are concepts that certain gay men need to wrap their narrow minds around (yeah, yeah, I am deliberately being judgmental—so judge me).

Read the article for yourself and tell me what you think.


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Are Straight Guys in Gay Porn Really Straight?
by Mike Alvear


Or do they claim it to boost sales?

Most people seem to think straight sex workers in gay porn are either closet case exhibitionists, money-hungry heteros or want-it-all versatiles. Personally, I don’t think they’re gay, straight or bi. I think they’re “buy-sexual.”

Gay guys should understand that term better than anyone. We’ve been trading sex for a certain kind of currency since the beginning of time.

How many of us dated, sexed or married a woman because it would “buy” us entry into the groups we wanted to be part of? Like family, friends, church, work, or the military. We’ve been doing “Straight-for-stay” a lot longer than straights have been doing “Gay-for-pay.” Don’t let money blind you to the meaning of currency.

Gay-for-pay says, “I have sex with men for money.” Straight-to-stay says, “I have sex with women for acceptance.” The currency might be different but the dynamic is not: Temporarily thwarting authentic desire for something valuable.

I’ve had sex with a few women yet if you pointed the Kinsey spectrum at me, Alfred himself would say he’s never seen anybody gayer. If gays can get themselves “excited” for a gender we’re not attracted to, why do we think straight guys can’t?

There’s not that much difference between gay-for-pay and straight-to-stay. Fantasy is the great enabler. If gay men can use it to get past sessions with women, why wouldn’t straight guys be able to get past theirs with men? What’s between your ears is more powerful than what’s between your legs, even if someone’s got them pinned to your shoulders.

What isn’t easily defined is easily dismissed. The closest most of us can come to understanding the phenomenon of straight guys having gay sex is to say they’re bi-sexual. It’s hard to see that they’re in fact, buy-sexual.

5 comments:

Rygel said...

sabi naman sila basta meron butas papatulan ng lalaki e :D

daredevilry said...

we sometimes forget that money is not the only currency. power is too, as well as social standing, among others.

maybe the lesson is that we always shouldn't be easy to judge.

Lance said...

the question is - who is that damn hot guy in the pic? lol

joelmcvie said...

@LANCE: I don't know, I also borrowed that pic from the said article. (He's not the author, that I am sure.)

philbert said...

That guy is Chris Knights, an AFL footballer for the Adelaide Crows.
Not gay either, which is a shame.