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Sacha Guitry once said, "You can pretend to be serious, but you can't pretend to be witty." Oh yes, I'm the great pretender.
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Wednesday, May 27, 2009

Romantic Frantic

“Why, oh why does romance not last?!”

My young friend was wailing out loud to no one in particular. So when one wails to the Universe, I guess the Universe can assign me to do the explaining.

“You know,” I began, “romantic love always starts as a selfish emotion. It starts with a crush, an initial attraction, and then it graduates to an intense liking. But you don’t even know the other person very well; all you know is that you want him, not you want what’s best for him.”

His expression was one of puzzlement.

I continued, “I think that a longer-lasting love is one that puts the Other ahead of the Self. (And the ultimate act of selfless love is one wherein the Self is sacrificed for the Other or Others—hello, crucifixion!) So I think that romantic love starts out ‘doomed’ and needs to evolve into a selfless kind for it to last. It must become a love that is not afraid to let go of the other. When that happens, then I’m convinced that this is a love that will last until death do them part. Everything else has a built-in self-destruct mechanism.”

That should give him something to mull over.

10 comments:

the spy in the sandwich said...

haaay. been there, been that. :(

joelmcvie said...

@SPY: Mayor Ate Vi, istatchu? Hahaha.

Well, we live and learn.

Phoenix said...

Truelala! I completely agree Mcvie

jamie da vinci! said...

this conversation feels familiar.

joelmcvie said...

@JAMIE: You know, these lessons are just passed on from one love-fool generation to another. LOL!

the barefoot baklesa said...

what people fail to realize is that they ask too much of "loving"

i can take whatever it gives me, or how short it can be...

[argh!!! you hear that, you seminarian you?!?]

joelmcvie said...

@BAKLESA: MEGAKNOWN?!

(Uhm, wait a minute... you mean this seminarian is reading my blog?! LOL)

Ming Meows said...

are you pertaining to miggs?

joelmcvie said...

@MING: No. Migs is not that naive.

the barefoot baklesa said...

McVie!

Hahahaha!!! As in, MEGAKNOWNG DRAMA!!!

thereafter, we've been stalking each other online, but we never bother to talk to each other...Hahahaha!!!

kaya mga anak, that is what you get when you ask too much of loving, ang minamahal ninyo napupunta sa ibang papa, si Papa Jesus.