“Why, oh why does romance not last?!”
My young friend was wailing out loud to no one in particular. So when one wails to the Universe, I guess the Universe can assign me to do the explaining.
“You know,” I began, “romantic love always starts as a selfish emotion. It starts with a crush, an initial attraction, and then it graduates to an intense liking. But you don’t even know the other person very well; all you know is that you want him, not you want what’s best for him.”
His expression was one of puzzlement.
I continued, “I think that a longer-lasting love is one that puts the Other ahead of the Self. (And the ultimate act of selfless love is one wherein the Self is sacrificed for the Other or Others—hello, crucifixion!) So I think that romantic love starts out ‘doomed’ and needs to evolve into a selfless kind for it to last. It must become a love that is not afraid to let go of the other. When that happens, then I’m convinced that this is a love that will last until death do them part. Everything else has a built-in self-destruct mechanism.”
That should give him something to mull over.
10 comments:
haaay. been there, been that. :(
@SPY: Mayor Ate Vi, istatchu? Hahaha.
Well, we live and learn.
Truelala! I completely agree Mcvie
this conversation feels familiar.
@JAMIE: You know, these lessons are just passed on from one love-fool generation to another. LOL!
what people fail to realize is that they ask too much of "loving"
i can take whatever it gives me, or how short it can be...
[argh!!! you hear that, you seminarian you?!?]
@BAKLESA: MEGAKNOWN?!
(Uhm, wait a minute... you mean this seminarian is reading my blog?! LOL)
are you pertaining to miggs?
@MING: No. Migs is not that naive.
McVie!
Hahahaha!!! As in, MEGAKNOWNG DRAMA!!!
thereafter, we've been stalking each other online, but we never bother to talk to each other...Hahahaha!!!
kaya mga anak, that is what you get when you ask too much of loving, ang minamahal ninyo napupunta sa ibang papa, si Papa Jesus.
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