Thousands of paper reams and millions of song verses have been wasted on bewailing the sorrows of the dumped. What often goes unnoticed are the difficulties that the dumper experiences as well, especially if he wants to remain friends with the one he dumped. Everyone know that breaking up is hard to do, but even those who aren’t the King’s horses and the King’s men are surprised when they realize that, once broken, it’s hard to put Humpty Dumpty back together again. But then I say, let the dumper suffer too. It takes two to tangle, and both parties share in the entanglement.
Time heals all wounds but Space is needed as well. And thus the time-space paradox of dumping: to remain close, allow space.
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I can totally relate...
ive always felt being the dumpee than the dumper.
the dumper gets guilt, conflict (what if i was wrong?), a lot of explaining to do, and major image issues.
the dumpee gets to wallow and wail joey albert's "tell me"
The lyric of a song comes to mind:
"There's a fine, fine line between a fairy tale and a lie;
And there's a fine, fine line between "You're wonderful" and "Goodbye."
I guess if someone doesn't love you back it isn't such a crime,
But there's a fine, fine line between love
And a waste of your time.
So I guess it all depends upon the context of the break up. If lies and deceit are involved then I would barf at the thought of the dumper asking the dumped for friendship. I mean, "hello, Hypocrisy?!"
@LANCE: Good point. But in this case, assume that no lies and deceit happened; it was just unrequited feelings.
Thank you for this, Joel.
I understand that most people automatically sympathize with the "dumpee" and cast vicious looks at the "dumper." It's as if a "dumpee" is automatically granted sainthood while the "dumper" becomes branded a heartless tormentor.
While the "villain" and the "victim" roles in some breakups are crystal-clear, there's always two sides to a story. And while it is true that some "dumpers" lose no sleep over terminating a relationship, it is also true that some "dumpees" secretly breathe a sigh of relief that it was the other who initiated a breakup and get all the knee-jerk blame.
Breaking up can be agonizing for the "dumper" too.
I thought the post was going to be about poo ala Misterhubs.
"It takes two to tangle, and both parties share in the entanglement."
your wordplay is really delish. haha now i understand johnny cursive's post.
Mcvie,
I'm just curious. Do you now watch Gossip Girl? Your word play was also used in an episode, nagulat lang ako.
Hahahaha. Sana convert ka na =)
Kane
@KANE: In fairness to me, I've not watch a full episode of GG yet. I've only seen probably 20% of an episode from season 1 (I don't even remember na what happened).
If you're referring to the word play "it takes two to tangle", I think it's one of those easier ones to come up with, so it doesn't surprise me if others have separately thought of it. I suspect it's on its way to becoming a cliche.
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