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Sacha Guitry once said, "You can pretend to be serious, but you can't pretend to be witty." Oh yes, I'm the great pretender.
(pilot episode: 20 January 2004)

Monday, April 30, 2007

File Under: One For The Books

Last night at CB I hooked up with a 30+ year-old married guy with a five year old son and another child on the way.

KABOG mga misis! Yun na.

Of course I found out about it during the post-coital chat. He was amazed at, uhm, something I did to him, and he wanted to know where I learned that, uhm, technique. Improvisation, I said. Plus practice makes perfect. That started it; from then on he was quite the chatty fellow.

It wasn’t his first time in CB. And the last time he was there was several months ago. His wife is already 8 months pregnant, so he gets it where he can. He said he reconciled long ago in his mind the idea of going to a gay-oriented establishment to get his kicks. He has been playing in a band since college, and he has had lots of sex with girl groupies before. (Good golly Miss Molly, I snagged the bass player of a band!)

I asked him if he is sexually and emotionally attracted to guys. He said if he sees a picture of a naked hunk he would admire the physique, maybe even imagine what it’s like to have sex with him. But he said he doesn’t get a hard on just by seeing the picture. Naked sexy girls, on the other hand, give him a woody.

Did he ever get emotionally attracted or attached to another guy? He says the closest would be this UAAP player from LaSalle whom he met in CB. They exchanged numbers, and have gone out several times, usually to play billiards or go drinking. I got the impression that he was attracted to the idea that this good-looking, very masculine basketball player had a crush on him.

Of course he could be lying through his teeth the whole time. But he didn’t seem like he was making things up. And why go through the elaborate pretense anyway?

So, does one even dare to classify him? Give the wide spectrum of human sexuality, is there be a label that can hold him in? Do we even bother?

Much later on I saw him dragging along a gym-buff, Chinese looking hunk into his room. Sigh. Rock star eh. Life is unfair.

P.S. – Maybe I should just label him “rock star,” hmmm?


Anonymous said...

hala sige hada! how's the Cheese Burger nowadays?

joelmcvie said...

Ay sus, CHUS, why don't you find out for yourself? ;-)

Compared to F, mas maraming PAPA dito, if you're into more matured and better behaved guys. At least wala sa CB yung mga groupies running around the corridors and making so much noise and chika.

Baklang AJ said...

in fairness. hala baka yung friend ko to... charot!

fried-neurons said...

ewan natin... i've sort of started believing that there are a lot of guys who self-identify as straight and genuinely believe they're being honest... even though they may have sex with other men occasionally... i guess technically they're bi... but if they truly don't form emotional attachments with other men, and if they're overwhelmingly more attracted to women, then i think they can be allowed to call themselves straight. said...

parang kilala ko yung chinito gym-buff. lagi nga andun yun hehehe and worse of all, when i got him, akala nya top ako!!

agree ako CB is a lot better, may sarili kang room and mas maraming daddies hehehehe

joelmcvie said...

FRIED-NEURONS: Yes, I agree with you that there are guys like that; I just don't know about their numbers, if they're a lot or not. But the fact is that they exist, guys who are sexually and emotionally attracted to girls, but don't mind getting off and having sex with guys. Maybe they realized that guys know other guys' bodies better, hmmm?

Joel said...


Would you think you can call them pansexual?

amateur misanthrope said...

What's CB?

joelmcvie said...

JOEL: The defintion of "pansexual" includes the following: [1] Allowing all types of people. No regard to gender or sexual orientation. [2] A person who participates in (or is open to) sexual activities of many kinds. [3] One who exhibits or suggests a sexuality that has many different forms, objects, and outlets. One who exhibits many forms of sexual expression.

What's more, they diffrentiaite it from bisexuality: "I think pansexual is a broader term than bisexual because it includes not only loving both men and women but also transgendered people and gender fluid people who do not feel they fit into categories of male or female."

So yes, I think we can call him pansexual. Or we can simply call him a horny bastard. Or even a horny bastard and a great liar. Hahaha! Or I can call him so we can have a round two. Ay, I didn't get his phone number pala.

AMATEUR MISANTHROPE: CB is Club Bath, the grand dame of bath houses in Manila. Also known as Cheese Burger amongst its clientele.

Phillip said...

gusto ko pumunta sa CB! :) :) :)http://

Anonymous said...

Kelan mo ko isasaman d'yan?


Anonymous said...

Maybe Down-low????

From wikipedia - One popular usage of the Down-low is to describe discreet sexual behavior, particularly that of people in relationships that are involved with others outside that relationship without the consent of their partner.

In recent years, in the gay community the down-low often refers to married men, or men professing to be heterosexual having sex with other men, but who identify themselves as neither homosexual nor bisexual due to being in the closet. Many homosexual men use the term down-low to refer to their choice not to broadcast their sexual preference.

Among some sectors of male sub-culture (called "men on the DL" or "down-low"), same-sex sexual behavior is sometimes viewed as solely for physical pleasure. Men on the "down-low" may engage in regular, secret sex acts with other men while continuing sexual and romantic relationships with women. Some have argued that being openly gay may lead to considerable stigma in communities where traditional family behavior is greatly valued, thus leading men to engage in male-to-male sex in secret while publicly maintaining heterosexual relationships

joelmcvie said...

PHILLIP: Ay naku, noon ko pa sinasabi sa iyo na mas bagay sa iyo ang CB. Mas malapit na, mas maraming papa pa! The client profile is older, more mature, less prone to traveling in chatty groups. You'll be a hit there.

Ahihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihihi. ;-)

Anonymous said...

Rock star or horny bastard might be much more appropriate since it is closer label to the guy than any other label suggested earlier..Best regards..Homie

joelmcvie said...

POWERBOTTOM.PH: Malamang nagkita na tayo sa CB, hindi ko lang alam na ikaw pala yun. :-)